shut the hell up. i am working on a hot kitty! That warm, sexy rush~

"According to several major surveys, only 25 percent of women always climax during sex with a partner. The rest of us either hit — or miss — depending on the night, or never orgasm during intercourse at all. Compared to the male version (more than 90 percent of men get their cookies 100 percent of the time), the female "O" is a fleeting phenomenon. The question is: Why? What the hell was Mother Nature thinking?" ~ womenshealthmag.com

 More stuff that is 'womens work'? grrrr... patently unfair!!!
Although, experiencing two vag'l orgasms and two clitoral sensory tantra style explosions in the last month alone? all fabulous touching, skin, talk and breathing exploring overload? makes me even more curious as to what is going on here. E

gals, some intro thought. **I** want, i know you want, but none of want to bare our primal sensuality even a bit?
How long does it take with a new partner to open up and grab the ceiling?
Is it possible with a first time or one-time encounter?
Is 'getting fucked' or being objectified the turnon?
Or is it easier with our own? or by ourselves?



Yet, night time comforts of fingers or toys, sleeping alone. stimulating mind for body's sake. A pleasure button of sorts. Not even the same kind of finish, gasping and panting, talking low and dirty to yourself, enjoying flesh for the sake of sensation and touching, visual. That is MY body doing and feeling that. DO NOT STOP, plzplzplplzplzplzplzplz.

those ideas and images flood me, lube me, give me the confidence to look my lover in the eye and initiate the responding mode. Guide me, let me explore your sensations. The dark dank feelings are as much "ME/YOU" as the shaking with laughter feelings. The ones that i know in private we share. 

Although, responding and being the receiver-giver during intimacy, the "usual" things that get me high when i am solo don't work. Because i am in the present, participating, anticipating. Just as i recognize his thought~heart behind the motion~action, it changes. pain~pleasure, impulse~stimulation.

So getting there becomes all the fun. peaking at at the top and getting my body used to this partner, his breathing, his pattern even as he studies my responses and tailors the visual and emotional to arouse me deeply. serves its own purpose and l'uomo amante is great at design. a beautiful example of passion and consideration in intimacy. all my spots rubbed, so shut up and kiss me!!

This is to some degree, me... and one very disciplined lover! the lesbian part is in there only to clarify what follows, OK? **rolls eyes**

One liberating thing about the lesbian world, is that the "virtue-worrying" element drops completely out. It's very relaxing to be a fallen woman, whether by dent of one's queerness, kink, or commercial enterprise.
But back to the men:  I have a vibe— nothing I can prove, just anecdotal evidence— that even though "premature ejaculators" (god, I hate that term) get a lot of press, there are just as many men who are the other end of the spectrum.
This kind of man will control, delay, and push back their orgasm so that it becomes difficult for anyone to bring them off other than themselves— with their own hands, fantasies, and timing. In that sense, they share something with women who also can't just "give it up" to her ardent lover.~ susie bright

What used to pass for passion? is a whole different gone deal. GONE DEAL. in case anyone missed that.